And I confess to being troubled by your willingess to assign to him the worst possible motives. OK, so you disagree with his decision, but please at least consider the possibility that he's doing what he thinks is right. Please see Matthew 7:1 and the second half of I Samuel 16:7.
And the problem with the committee approach to end of life decisions is that it guarantees that you will have situations like this where family members don't agree. I know up front that my spouse and my mother would make different choices -- he'd carry out my wishes not to be kept alive by machines; she'd keep me alive as long as possible regardless of my wishes.
If someone's wishes are clear, that person shouldn't need anybody's permission to have them carried out. If they aren't clear, call me old fashioned but I think the marriage relationship is a special relationship that trumps everything else. "Therefore shall a man leave both his father and his mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh."


